The reason the focus is on women is because alcohol in women is a stimulant, but in men it reacts biologically as a depressant, so the same results or emotions do not come into play.
While alcohol does allow both male and females to become uninhibited, it is only with females that emotional attachments occur when the stimulant of alcohol is combined with sex, and, it is always with catastrophic consequences.
The following are some real life examples with the names being changed.
Laura was a pretty teenage girl. One night unsupervised she went to a keg party at which time she became in effect falling down drunk. A boy a year younger than her proceeded to have sex with her while she was in that state.
From this experience, she became overly sexually active and became pregnant and had to be married, quitting school, at age 16.
Carrie was a young married woman. Her and a girlfriend one evening decided to experiment while drinking what it was to be a lesbian. Upon getting drunk, they proceeded to have sex.
From this experience, she had to battle constantly the lust for women she now had, because of what happened while drunk.
Alley was a married woman too. She decided while drinking with a friend to go to her house. Once there her female friend took her to bed which later proved to be a set up, because her friends boyfriend showed up and the girlfriend held her while he had sex with Alley.
From what happened that night, it led to other infidelities from both her and her husband.
Marsha was engaged to be married. One night while drinking with her fiancé they had sex for the first time and she became pregnant.
From this happening it soured her marriage and for the sake of her children she stayed in it, unhappy, but creating a family just as unhappy as she was.
Stacey was married, but was at a friends house drinking one evening when her husband was out of town. So, she presumed she was safe. But, one of her friends brothers was very nice to her all night. The perfect seducing gentleman who later saw her home and he did not stop at the door. He instead had sex with her when she was not in any condition to say no.
From this she was plagued by that infidelity and it destroyed her marriage.
Gail is a married woman. She was molested as a child. She would later have her first sexual experience at age 13. Alcohol and drugs would later enter the picture to cover up the unsettled issues she had from being molested.
Gail is now with her seventh husband, but when she drinks she "visits" her former lovers and has sex with them......
These are just a few of the clinical examples which can be related as I am sure each of us can relate stories we are aware of having to do with alcohol and sex being a product of it.
The tragedy with these women is the scars they carry with them and the demons so to speak which were unleashed when combining lack of self-esteem with alcohol and having a male or female take advantage of them.
It should be noted that of the cases involved in which the stimulant alcohol was used and sex was the product that the offenders all disappeared because of guilt or being after new prey, or, they stayed around becoming more attached, but either becoming alcoholics themselves or not drinking at all.
The alcoholics drank to cover their guilt, and, the non drinkers did so because they were ashamed, or, the sobriety occurred when they could not deal with the fact that they had taken advantage of someone sexually while they were drunk or they needed them drunk to be sexually appealing to them.
The results though in every case were disastrous for all involved, because true emotions were not involved. It was instead the case of stimulated emotions with adverse effects which would manifest themselves for years when left untreated.
This formulation for analysis is intended as a learning tool for parents of children.
It is not meant to condemn the drinking of alcohol in anyway, the people who drink or the distillers.
But what it is meant to do is to call to attention the inherent dangers associated with alcohol, especially for women.
Alcohol is a stimulant which affects women sexually. Combined with an environment of emotional need along with the wrong situation, sex will occur as the above examples show and with devastating results.
Our children need to be educated on the problems associated with social drinking and how it is NEVER a safe activity.
Our sons need to be shown that being with a woman who has had even one drink is a false set of feelings and emotions being sent to them by the woman. There is nothing romantic about knowing that someone is attracted to you because of fermented grain.
Likewise our daughters need to be taught that drinking will bring out false emotions and make them vulnerable to situations which will cause them terrible harm, and too, there is nothing romantic about being with a man who you will later have to make excuses for as to why you were with them.
Alcohol is a drug. It is perhaps the most dangerous drug also, because no one takes it serious and everyone thinks they can handle it. After all, it is legal and it is only one drink.
If one drink will get you arrested for driving intoxicated, because it will kill you, maybe each of us should consider that sex intoxification is just as dangerous and will kill our emotional self just as fast.
Think about it and educate your children.
