I was having a conversation with a fed the other day which was interesting on several levels as I had only had contact with him twice in the past 10 years and he was calling me by my first name, and as we discussed various issues, he started telling me about a woman he met on the internet, who used him to get 100% disability, had her own cell phone private life and divorced him the day she got her government claim through.His one word exhale said it all as he looked down, "Man it cost me allot of money to get rid of that woman".
It is always an interesting experience the first few times it happens to have people who say they love you lead you out into the wilderness of life and then stab you in the back. Being cheated on is as the fed learned a most scarring event in soul rape which you never recover from, because 10 out of 10 times when these feeders have you down, they are cheating on the person they are cheating on you with, and then they either tell you to commit suicide or try to accidentally off you themselves.
It is few and far in between the spouses now who are like Mom and Dad most people grew up with.
I don't know if it would be called fortunate by some or just the way life is in I have been involved with Miss America's, centerfolds and various types of what people flock to as "beauty". The gal I have pictured above is Lisa Welch, a centerfold, who in her day was the most beautiful woman in the world. If you ever saw, Revenge of the Nerds with Robert Carradine, she was the cheerleader with one line.
Last time I saw her she had 6 children, boys who had guns and loved shooting them, a husband who was staying around, and what seemed to be a very good life as it was life and not Hefner.
I have seen the opposite though in centerfolds hooked on Rush Limbaugh pain killers, going through the boy toy of the week, after divorce, kids taken from them and being crippled by some beast of a male who wanted a trophy wife but not the competition of the attention she got.
I do contemplate beauty often in wondering why women do not seem as beautiful now as they did when I was growing up. They all seem so flawed now in the ones who are placed before the world in we are either being lied to in being told Muchelle Obama is pretty when the woman is ugly or there is some gal like Carrie Prejean, I hope her Christian roots take hold deeper as the crowd she was running around with were better left on the side of the road.
I have always considered Proverbs 28 to be the perfect definition of a woman in she was intelligent, responsible, thrifty, ran her business and household, was a family person and you could trust her no matter what.
Notice in that, there was not one mention of the word "beauty", "sexy" or "hot". What makes a woman worth caring about is she cares about herself and has a mind of her own to accomplish whatever God set her on earth to complete.
I've been told often enough that I'm not like most people as I look at the person or the woman for who they are. I like a woman's eyes as that is what is interesting about her most in my discernment. Bodies get old and flabby, but eyes do not loose their edge. A homely woman has always been attractive to my understanding as they had to develop something about themselves instead of relying on beauty to get the doors opened for them.
In listening to a sportsman this past year, he was lamenting that there were no good looking women interested in hunting or fishing when he was growing up in the 70's. He was carrying on now that women seemed to be all over the outdoors and they were good looking too.
His opinion was that he wanted a person like that in his life to go with him constantly.
I looked at him and shook my head and said, "No you don't want someone with you all the time shooting your game and out fishing you. You want the woman who gets a thrill out of picking your geese and frying your fish."
It really didn't sink in for him right away, but in listening to him a few months later he was telling me someone had been saying they wanted a wife who would no be around them all the time, but enjoyed cleaning game.
I guess it soaked in.
I grew up around hard working people, who most couples rarely did anything together as they never had time. They would check on each other in acts of kindness and that is what mattered to them was just that association.
I would rather have someone around me who could converse, not be selfish and actually had interests other than what I had..........because sometimes it is nice to just listen, be looked after and experience life in someone in what they are passionate about.
Little boys and girls, it seems are too peer pressure oriented to ever say anything about their real thoughts. I recall like most people watching Gilligan's Island and noting Dawn Wells was the attractive woman while Tina Louise just had no appeal. The world though told everyone we should all think Ginger was hot.
I just couldn't see any use for a woman in slinky dresses who all she did was pretend she was someone else.
It is the same with Gone with the Wind. I was one of the first people to start saying Olivia De Haviland was the gorgeous one while that Scarlet was about as interesting as getting a stick poked in your eye.
It isn't that beauty is only skin deep or that ugly goes clear to the bone. It is that beauty is wasted on the beautiful people and ugly doesn't come from the skin inward, but from the soul outward. Most of the utterly most ugly people I have ever met were gorgeous. They were mean, sloven, used people and discarded them, and, people let them get away with it.
I will use as I have before the Bush women as examples of beauty. I personally think Barbara Bush is a hottie. She is a tough, strong, intelligent and caring woman who dresses appropriately at all times.
My favorite moment with her was watching her at the Republican Convention when everyone was raising hell in a good mood, and she just gave the grandmotherly stare and lowered her hands........the crowd went silent, because they respected that woman.
That is beauty.
Her daughter in law, Laura, is fabulous, in she is a good looking woman, who if you noticed just completed 8 years as First Lady without one mishap, scandal or tarnished image in the press. She always dressed appropriately and you knew you could trust the woman.
That is beauty.
I apologize if I do not know the brunette twin's name, but to me she is the beautiful one compared to the spunky blonde who got married. Except for the press expecting them to act like nuns when they were teenage college kids, the girls did fine in the worst possible situations. They graduated college. Have careers and the brunette didn't have to go running off to find some guy to fill a void in her. She is fine loading her own ammunition for quail hunting.
That is beauty.
Ugly is people who do not care about themselves or others. Ugly is people who let themselves be whored to get something out of life. Ugly is people married time after time and making excuses that the wife was too young, too pretty, too this and too that, when it was the spouse doing the blaming who was the perpetual problem.
If the first things coming out of a person's mouth are, "I, me, mine" and all you hear is their gripes, problems and bitching without ever asking how you are..........that is not the person you want in your life, unless you are an Obama voter looking to be punished for his rejecting your advances. Peggy Noonan probably as her rosary wore out for the whacking she is doing in penance for Birdy Obama not inviting her to be first babe........not for her being deluded in voting for the fraud.
I often wonder why people lived to 900 years as time goes by in my world, I seem to bury too many dogs, horses and people I love, to want to keep doing it another 30 times as I doubt it wears off. I will accept eternal when the time comes, but in this world the once going around with all this beautiful ugly is all I will ever desire.
I find that George Washington was not just the father of America, but he was the epitome with his wife, Martha, in the gift of marriage and the social intercourse of the agrarian cavalier which is most healthful as Teddy Roosevelt advocated.
Gardens, orchards, servants needing direction in life, good associations, the raising of stock, hunting, fishing, trapping, running hounds on horse, all make for the perfect greenhouse in which to grow the orchid of God's Spirit in transforming a human into a child of God.
Every time in life, I start thinking there is no more in life, God always gives me something I would frown at and it ends up being something which adds immensely to the life experience. The Nubian goats God placed in my world, which everyone was groaning over "as you have to milk goats twice a day" (instead of having television blare at you, talking on the cell phone or driving around running over someone else's pet) has proven to me a God send.
I now understand fully Jesus in "The sheep hear my voice and know me", as goats are twice as bright as dogs and quite interesting pets one can talk to as they understand, even better than hogs, cattle or horses.
There is nothing wrong in being tied down in life to a situation in being responsible, whether it is caring for an animal or making sure a parent or sibling is being cared for. So what, if I have to turn down invitations to be with beautiful people in being responsible in my world, as I'm finding beauty in life doing things on God's time.
Both men and women should read and study Proverbs 28, as it is the perfect example for everyone to live their lives by.......certainly is shorter than Benjamin Franklin's unfinished memoir which is wonderful.
Try reading it David Axelrod and the lurking left here. Print it out and give it to Birdie and Muchelle Obama.........and perhaps if they start implementing it into their lives for a few years, this blog might actually refer to them in a respectful note as Mr. and Mrs. Obama.
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I'm also in love with a 2 dollar 1930's era aluminum kettle, with wooden handle, as one just can not find them in pristine condition. One person's ugly is another person's beauty. I will have a marvelous time playing with my aluminum playmate.
